Saturday, 16 February 2013

Bonecrker #24 - Social Proofing

I keep saying it, but nobody really believes me (until they experience it for themselves). Women ignore objective signs of worth and status and instead make decisions on attraction mostly at random. Signs of worth... tall, looks, money, muscles, status, don't change greatly who is attracted to you. I'm undecided if fame actually does make more women attracted or if it simply makes the women who like you anyway, hunt you down in an obsessive way. What it does affect is their aggressiveness. Don't build muscles and a hot body in the gym (ditto for making cash, wearing cool clothes etc.) thinking it will get you a certain type of girl (or worse, a specific girl) because it won't (much to my dismay). You do it because it affects your own confidence  and it makes the women (the same exact women who were already attracted to you), more attracted. More of them reveal themselves to you, and they make it easier for you to get them.

Also, and this is important, because women make these decisions at random, they often have difficulty judging their looks, status, whatever, compared to yours. What matters is social proofing. No matter how ugly you look, if you date a lot of women, good looking women will find you attractive. This also works in reverse. On the dating websites, all the girls on them are what you would call "hard to place". They rarely get dates, which is why they are online. Since you are also online, they assume you are the same way. It doesn't matter if you have all these signs of being much higher status than her. All she looks at is the social proof that you are also an online loser, like her. If you go, "Pffft, lady, I'm out of your league," they will freak. If anything, they assume your status is much lower than hers.

I think this is one of the biggest reasons to avoid online dating. All the girls are the dregs, who think you are beneath them, no matter what. It's a lose/lose situation.

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“…Women may have happy ideas, taste and elegance, but they cannot attain to the ideal. The difference between men and women is like that between animals and plants. Men correspond to animals, while women correspond to plants because their development is more placid and the principle that underlies it is the rather vague unity of feeling. When women hold the helm of government, the state is at once in jeopardy, because women regulate their actions not by the demands of universality but by arbitrary inclinations and opinions. Women are educated – who knows how? – G.F. Hegel
Further Reading:
Bonecrker #34 – Online Dating – Not!

Bonecrcker #44 – Women Have Contradictory Love

Bonecrcker #103 – Raising Your Sexual Status

Bonecrcker #104 – Sexual Status is Similar to Employment Status

Bonecrcker #111 – Gaining Power With Women

Bonecrcker #123 – One of the Most Important Reasons to Have More Than One Woman at Once

Bonecrcker #172 – Social Proofing Has Negative Survival Value For Women

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